You might need therapy when strong feelings keep going without easing, when the way you're coping starts to cost you something, or when daily life gets harder to manage.

Many people now meet with a therapist by video from home, or from a quiet room on a lunch break, and for some it's the only way therapy fits into their week.

Nobody really teaches us how to choose a therapist. Most of us start with a search or a referral, and then have to decide fairly quickly whether a stranger feels right.